若即若离

若即若離
ruòjíruòlí
idiom #66,713

Meanings

  1. 1 neither close nor distant
  2. 2 to keep someone at arm's length
  3. 3 lukewarm (of a relationship)

Examples

Tāmen de guānxì ruò jí ruò lí.
Their relationship is neither close nor distant.
Tā duì tā ruò jí ruò lí, ràng rén zhuōmō bù tòu.
She keeps him at arm's length in a way that's hard to read.
Liǎng jiā gōngsī bǎochí zhe ruò jí ruò lí de hézuò guānxì.
The two companies maintain a cooperative but distant partnership.

Tips

usage
Most often describes interpersonal relationships (romantic or friendly) where one party deliberately maintains ambiguity. Can also describe diplomatic or business alliances.
memory
= 'seems,' = 'approach,' = 'depart.' 'Seems to approach, seems to leave' — a textbook definition of hot-and-cold.

Stroke Order

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