近朱近墨

jìnzhūjìnmò
idiom

Meanings

  1. 1 one is judged by the company one keeps
  2. 2 you become like those you spend time with
  3. 3 environment shapes character

Examples

Jìnzhūjìnmò, tā gēn nà qún rén zài yīqǐ, xìnggé yě biàn le.
You become who you hang out with — his personality changed after he joined that crowd.
Fùmǔ zhòngshì háizi de péngyǒu quān, yīnwèi jìnzhūjìnmò.
Parents care about their children’s friends because we’re shaped by who’s around us.

Tips

history
Compressed form of the better-known ("near vermilion you turn red, near ink you turn black"), attributed to Western Jin scholar (Fu Xuan) in 《太子》. = cinnabar red ink, = black ink — touch either pigment and you take its color.

Stroke Order

jìn
zhū