贫贱夫妻百事哀

貧賤夫妻百事哀
pínjiànfūqībǎishìāi
phrase

Meanings

  1. 1 for a poor couple, every matter is a sorrow
  2. 2 poverty makes every trouble harder on a married pair

Examples

Chéng zhī cǐ hèn rén rén yǒu, pínjiàn fūqī bǎi shì āi.
Truly I know this sorrow belongs to everyone, yet for a poor couple every matter is a grief.
Tāmen jiéhūn hòu shēnghuó jiānnán, zhēn shì pínjiàn fūqī bǎi shì āi.
Life has been hard for them since they married — truly 'for a poor couple, every matter is a sorrow.'

Tips

history
From Yuan Zhen's 《怀》 (Tang dynasty), the second of three poems mourning his late wife Wei Cong: 人人夫妻百事。 Yuan Zhen and Wei Cong had lived in poverty; she died before he became successful. The line's poignancy comes from his belated prosperity — the things he couldn't give her when it mattered.
usage
A bittersweet observation, not a cynical dismissal of love. Quote it to sympathize with a struggling couple, not to mock them.

Stroke Order

pín
jiàn
bǎi
shì
āi