除非己莫为

除非己莫為
chúfēijǐmòwéi
phrase #60,937

Meanings

  1. 1 unless you don't do it yourself (it cannot be kept secret) — the only way to keep a wrong hidden is never to commit it
  2. 2 literally: unless oneself does not do (it)

Examples

Ruò yào rén bù zhī, chúfēi jǐ mò wéi, zuò le huài shì chízǎo huì bèi jiēfā.
If you want no one to know, then don't do it — wrongs are always exposed sooner or later.
Wǎngluò shàng shénme dōu kěnéng liú hén, chúfēi jǐ mò wéi.
Anything on the internet can leave a trace — the only way to keep it secret is not to do it.

Tips

history
Second half of a Han-era proverbial couplet preserved in 《·》 and widely repeated in later literature: 要人不知除非 — 'If you wish no one to know of it, then you yourself must not do it.' The logic is airtight: secrets leak, so the only fool-proof way to hide a misdeed is never to commit it. Enduring favourite of moralists, school teachers, and anti-corruption officials.
usage
Paired couplet — almost always cited with its mate 要人不知. Serves as a verbal warning / remonstrance; register is folk-proverbial rather than classical-literary.

Stroke Order

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