难言之隐

難言之隱
nányánzhīyǐn
idiom #30,213

Meanings

  1. 1 a secret one finds hard to tell
  2. 2 an unspeakable trouble
  3. 3 a painful matter one cannot discuss

Examples

Tā jùjué jiěshì, xiǎnrán yǒu nányánzhīyǐn.
He refused to explain — he clearly had something he couldn't say.
Měi jiā dōu yǒu nányánzhīyǐn, bié qīngyì píngjià biérén.
Every family has its own unspeakable troubles — don't judge others lightly.
Tā zǒngshì bì kāi zhège huàtí, yīdìng yǒu nányánzhīyǐn.
She always avoids the topic — there must be something she can't bring herself to say.

Tips

history
From the late-Qing novel 《二十目睹现状》 by Wu Jianren: nearly every household has 难言之隐, and most of them, the narrator quips, are caused by the womenfolk. The phrase entered common usage from late-Qing fiction.
usage
Commonly preceded by (to have). Used sympathetically — implies the speaker doesn't want to press the person further. Also used euphemistically for health/financial problems in advertising ("某些难言之隐").

Stroke Order

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