退避三舍

tuìbìsānshè
idiom #35,300

Meanings

  1. 1 to retreat ninety li
  2. 2 to give way to avoid conflict
  3. 3 to back off out of deference

Examples

Miànduì qiángdí, tā xuǎnzé tuìbì sān shè.
Facing a strong opponent, he chose to back off.
Duìyú tā de píqi, tóngshìmen dōu tuìbì sān shè.
Colleagues steer well clear of her temper.
Tā kǒucái xīlì, duìshǒu zhǐ néng tuìbì sān shè.
His tongue is so sharp that opponents can only back down.

Tips

history
From 《左传·二十三》. When Duke Wen of Jin was in exile in Chu, he promised King Cheng of Chu that if their armies ever met, he would retreat three (each 30 li, so 90 li total) in gratitude. At the Battle of Chengpu (632 BCE), he kept his word — then went on to win.

Stroke Order

退 tuì
sān
shě