二者不可得兼

èr zhě bùkě dé jiān
quotation

Meanings

  1. 1 the two cannot both be had
  2. 2 you have to choose - both options cannot be taken at once
  3. 3 two, things, not, can, obtain, together

Examples

HSK 3
Shìyè hé jiātíng yǒushí èrzhěbùkědéjiān.
Career and family - sometimes 'the two cannot both be had.'
HSK 7-9
Yú hé xióngzhǎng èrzhěbùkědéjiān, bìxū qǔshě.
'Fish and bear's paw cannot both be had' - you must choose.

Tips

history
From 《孟子·告子上》 (Mencius, Gaozi I, c. 4th c. BCE), the canonical 'fish and bear's paw' passage: 我所欲也熊掌亦我所欲也二者不可得兼舍鱼而取熊掌者也 (Fish is what I desire; bear's paw is also what I desire. If the two cannot both be had, I would give up the fish and take the bear's paw). Mencius then uses it as a parable for choosing yi (righteousness) over life itself. The source of both this phrase and 舍生取义.
usage
here = classical 'to be able to obtain' (not modern 'gain'). = 'both at once / concurrently.' Virtually always invoked when framing a hard either/or choice, especially morally loaded ones.

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